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It's wonderful to learn from past heartbreak and to tell yourself to not fall for someone whose soul isn't fully in, or to not give yourself away too easily, but you can't expect your future love to be perfect and the total opposite of the one who broke your heart.

Real love is not about holding out for the perfect person or finding someone who meets all the criteria on your list. It is never about finding the ONE who will get a high score on your checklist. It’s all about finding an imperfect person and building a messy, beautiful love.

No two people will always say and do the right thing, or be able to love selflessly every single minute of the relationship and this is a fact that you need to accept in order for you to have real love because you will not set your expectation bar too high on how your supposed to be loved.

Real love is finding someone who simply fits, and fighting to fit even when the pieces become jagged and worn over time and acknowledging that they are not perfect but still love them despite their flaws.

And finally loving your relationship not because it is everything you imagined, but because it is wild and wonderful and difficult and exciting and everything more. Stop wishing for the perfect person, and believing that you must stay single until you stumble across him or her.