A stressed woman.[photo/theprayingwoman.com]When women are much younger they tend to be too choosy because they feel the time is still on their side. But as time flys by they begin to get desperate and can hang on to any man as long as they get married. You will get someone with more of what you want and a little bit of what you don’t like. The question is, what will you go for?

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When we talk about standards, there are standards that can be lowered and those that cannot. What matters most is not what standards you have, but why you have them. Why for example, do you want to marry only from your tribe, race, or religion? Why is that important to you? If it is important to you then you cannot afford to lower that standard?

If on the other hand, it doesn’t matter to you that he be tall or light skinned, then you can lower or completely do away with that standard as long as they meet the more important criteria. What to someone else is a minor thing to you might be everything and that’s why you need to be careful when listening to your friends’ advice. At this moment write down your list of non-negotiable things and the negotiable ones and let that be your guide.

Looking back at the past relationships, have you analyzed them to understand what might have gone wrong? Was it a matter of being choosy or were there other factors at play. If someone cheated on you or was rude to you or not understanding, then you really didn’t have to hang out with them. However, if they were nice, but only lacked one or two things that really don’t matter, then yes, your friends might be right that you were too choosy.