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A happy marriage is all that every young person dreams of. However, sometimes things turn sour, and a beautiful marriage hits a dead end.
It is a puzzle to understand what really occurs when two people deeply in love decide to separate after a year or maybe more.
We take a look at the common causes of unexpected divorce cases.
Infidelity
Infidelity is one of the leading causes of marriage breakups in the contemporary society. Cheating is a killer of many relationships and marriages today. When either of partners in wedlock cheats, the relationship loses trust and security. Without the two the chords of marriage let ways. Lack of trust may result to lack of dependability, unreliability, and unreasonable rigidity. Immediately a partner in a marriage has entered into a relationship outside the wedlock; it’s always tough to regain the trust of their spouse.
Bad Habits
In early stages of a relationship people in love tend to see their partners as close to perfect. No matter what outsiders say, lovers tend to believe maybe they don’t wish them well. Unfortunately, this may last up to the honeymoon period. After the honeymoon, you discover the bad habits of your partner. The practices range from minor ones like failure to brush teeth to extreme ones such as excessive drunkenness.
Conflicting Goals
During courtship, “love birds” tend to agree on almost everything. However, as the time goes by, they start facing reality only to realize that some goals are not compatible as they thought. For example, one partner may decide to choose a different religion causing some differences in the family. The remedy in such a situation would be compromising for one party, but it’s a signal of incompatibility.
Low self-esteem
In a relationship, self-esteem is very critical. It starts from the value you attach to yourself, the feeling of being secure and valued in the relationship by your partner. When one is insecure in a relationship, he/she may not feel valued and respected in a relationship. In many cases, the relationship may fail if both parties do not work towards boosting the self-esteem.
Abuse
Physical abuse is not healthy for a relationship. It signals a breakup. It’s hard for someone to remain in a relationship characterized by physical violence or assault. Prevention is the best thing in everything. If your relationship has any pointers to abuse, you should quit as early as possible.
Money
Many people say those money break marriages. However, it’s not the money that breaks the marriage but the disagreement on spending. One party in the relationship may have a habit of overspending or spend money on unnecessary things while the other person may like responsible spending. Such a case may lead to disagreements and even result to divorce in a marriage.
Poor Communication
Communication is the backbone of any relationship. Lack of communication leads to disconnect between the two parties resulting in ending the relationship. When we have good communication between partners, then the relationship is likely to survive any turbulence.